As-salamu alaykum(Peace be upon you)

Life is a candy nobody ever asks for but eventually ended up eating the whole packet. It is such an irony that just to be happy in life, we work and stress so much that we forget the scent of being happy in the long run.
Our society sadly has built the invisible manuscript of when and where and at what age, what kind of happiness one should feel and if someone delays/skip any of the steps mentioned in the manuscript then they are meant to be unhappy for life. But don’t you feel there should be another way around, where you should be doing things with the primary goal of being happy? A happy soul should be the main pillar of any manuscript?
It’s sad to know that we have been categorized into a living robot with input tasks given, and our outcome is our efficiency of how perfect humans are we, with no happiness portion whatsoever. As a female, the burden of these manuscripts is more, despite the fact that now we are living in a Feminist movement world.
I believe that emotions and the basic responsibilities are genderless, I want to shout out loudly to this blind world, but then again when the small basic need of life like ‘happiness’ is at the stake what else you would do to move forward. We have big people doing big things for big issues, but what about the basic needs, and it is important?
As a human, we have come way far, but did we really? I won’t mind going back to the cave if happiness is treated as essential as inhaling oxygen. Sadly but truly, happiness has become a Mirage Concept hiding behind a big milestone every time you think that after getting something you are going to be happy but remember mirage is just an illusion far, far away from reality!
Growing up I never realized that being happy is same as that being alive, as a child I was happy, perfectly happy, effortlessly happy, peacefully happy, calmly happy, and happy in all sense cause maybe I was not aware of the world, the peer pressure, the manuscript and above all I was not aware that my gender will play a huge part in that, as a female there was no description of us in the manuscript that this patriarchy driven society has built. Silly they, emotion is genderless, and this simple concept is yet very alien to many.
According to this manuscript, female happiness is totally dependent on male happiness. Before marriage, she is her father’s responsibility and after marriage her husband’s responsibility, more like an object going from one owner to another, so happiness is not even a secondary thing to be considered here.
Let’s just break this stereotype, let’s just make it clear that happiness lies within you, in the state of mind, irrespective of your gender in small things around, in nature, during sunset, sunrise, in that beautiful moon, stars, in rain, on seeing the smile on your parent’s face, watching birds flying high, sitting near a beach, tracking the mountain, going on a road trip, listening to your favorite music and in all those small things that you have ignored for so long, but depending only on the manuscript and checking right all the box in the manuscript is absolutely not the correct path towards happiness.
Let just first focus on one’s own happiness. A cost-free effortless happiness, How about making a morning routine that just before brushing our teeth you should just feel happy for waking up on your own leg, sleeping under roof with electricity running and pure water to drink, and our day will follow the same and believe me that happiness will make you stronger in good successful times and even stronger in bad failure times because by then you will realize that the most important thing for a human is nothing but a pure state of happiness.
So inhale happiness and put your specs on and grab all happiness around and inside you, and don’t forget to throw that manuscript at the nearest trash!
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